18 PROVEN WAYS TO MANAGE MISTAKES...

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nce in life, I made a very costly mistake. Some people do. That's by the way. What matters most in life is not what mistake we've made in life: It's what happened next, what followed. Sometimes we make mistakes but instead of arising from the mud, from the dirt, cleaning up our mess and starting afresh with our life, we continue to ruminate about the past.

People make mistakes in business, their careers, academics, relationships... These misdoings have a way of boomeranging on us, our family, loved ones. It could arise from making a wrong decision in business, finding yourself in the wrong group, associating with the wrong person, engaging in a harmful lifestyle.

                          Here are some reasons why people make mistakes 

• Some learn better by experience.
• Their are individuals who refuse advice.
• Sometimes, we prefer self satisfaction and pleasure to paying the price for something we want and need.
•  Already mentioned, but when we find ourselves in the wrong groups, we tend to do things just to measure up that we'll regret later in life.

 from what I've gathered here are someways to manage mistakes

                                 18 Ways To manage mistakes

1. Accept responsibility.
2. Share it with a higher mind.
3. Do self evaluation: what really happened?
4. Examine your life.
5.  Arise from the mistake.
6. Accept constructive criticisms.
7. Avoid a repeat of your mistakes.
8. Abide by instruction.
9. Accept to give up what made you fall.
10. Associate with right thinking persons.
11. Apply for help.
12. Accommodate lessons from other people's mistakes.
13. Avoid unnecessary comparisons.
14. Acquire knowledge.
15. Avoid wrong information.
16. Apply the principle of diligence.
17. Assure yourself that you could still make it.
18. Anoint a new vision!

No matter what mistake you've made, no matter how costly the mistake is, you could still arise from that mistake. All of that should be put behind you.There is a bright future ahead of you. You have  a star in you.
         GO AND SHINE!!! 

Note! Have you made a mistake before in life? Fell free to tell us how you reacted to it in the comment box. thank you!

SUCCESS, CAN I MAKE IT!

"Accept  responsibility  for  your  life. Know that  it  is  you  who  will  get  you where  you  want  to  go,  no  one  else.”

                                                     - Les Brown

Yes,we can! That was the statement President Barack Obama used in his presidential campaign.
But what is success? Everyone has a peculiar answer to this question. A missionary will define it as converting many people to his religion in many countries, states, etc. A business man defines it as his fat bank account. A civil worker defines it as getting to the top most rank in his field of work. A student defines it as being the best in his field of study.
Success, simply is, getting profitable satisfaction from what one is doing. Many, as we know, aspire for greatness. Many, there are, that want to succeed but few are willing to pay the price. Some erroneously think that being rich is all about getting more money. John D. Rockefeller ,when asked how much money a man needed, replied: just a little more.

Many also pay the price but don't succeed because they are not in the right place. We need to succeed but before then, we need to approach the creator of success so we shall know his will and plan for us.
These are 10 things we need on our road to success

1) The God factor
2) Self discipline
3) Perseverance and Doggedness
4) Conviction
5) Right knowledge of Purpose
6) Focus
7) Time management
8) Determination
9) Diligence
10) Devotion

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HANDLING SELF ESTEEM IN TIMES OF FAILURE.

"You yourself, as much as anybody else in the entire universe deserve your love and affection."

                                                                                                      -Buddha

HANDLING SELF ESTEEM IN TIMES OF FAILURE

                  Failure sometimes is not easy to handle. A famous quote said that there are two people the world hates or abhors; those that succeed and those that fail. This is the reason why most people fail and cannot rouse themselves up in strength and continue.

When one fails, the world terms or tags him a total failure, a complete failure for which no flicker of hope is seen.  I just want to encourage and let you know, beyond reasonable doubt that all you needed to leave the dust upon which you sit, is just for you to believe. There is power in belief.

President Obama of the United States, who was the first black president of that country, won the election just by making the people believe in themselves.

Here a list and profile of some people who either had a bad start in life or were written off by the world but who later made names for themselves and wrote their names  in the  sands of  time.

1)      SIR ISAAC NEWTON

Sir Isaac Newton's mother pulled him out of school as a boy so that he could run the family farm. He failed miserably.

Realizing her son was not meant to till the land; she let Newton finish his basic education and was eventually persuaded to allow him to enrol in Cambridge University. Newton went on to become one of the greatest scientists of all time, revolutionizing physics and mathematics.

2)      VERA WANG

Vera Wang failed to make the U.S. Olympic figure-skating team. Then she became an editor at Vogue and passed over for the editor-in-chief position.

She began designing wedding gowns at age 40 and is one of the premier designers in the fashion industry with a business worth over $1 billion.

3)      SIDNEY POITIER

When Sidney Poitier first auditioned for the American Negro Theatre, he flubbed his lines and spoke in a heavy Caribbean accent, which made the director angrily tell him to stop wasting his time.

Poitier worked on his craft and eventually became a hugely successful Hollywood star. He won an Academy Award for Best Actor and helped to break down the color barrier in the American movie industry.

4)      ALBERT EINSTEIN 

 As a child, Albert Einstein had some difficulty communicating and .

Of course, Einstein's communication and behavioural problems did not indicate or suggest that he lacked intelligence. He won the Nobel prize in physics for the discovery of the photoelectric effect, and his special theory of relativity theory corrected the deficiencies of Newtonian physics.

5)      FRED ASTAIRE

In one of Fred Astaire's first screen tests, an executive wrote; "Can't sing, Can’t act, Slightly balding, Can dance a little."

Astaire went on to become a Hollywood and a Broadway agent.

6)         J. K. ROWLING

J. K. Rowling was a single mom living off welfare when she began writing the first "Harry Potter"

Rowling is now internationally renowned for her seven-book Harry Potter series and in the United States of America, became the first billionaire author in history.

7)      CHARLES DARWIN

Charles Darwin was considered an average student. He gave up on a career in medicine and was going to school to become a parson.

But as Darwin studied nature, he found his true calling and travelled the world to uncover nature's mysteries. His writings, especially "On the Origin of the Species," fundamentally changed the world of science by spreading the discovery of evolution.

8)      VINCENT VAN GOGH

Vincent Van Gogh sold only one painting, "The Red Vineyard," in his life, and the sale was just months before his death.

If he had given up his artistic career after it proved to strain his emotional well-being, the art world would be missing hundreds of paintings from a true master.

All these are only but a few of men, women, who though, Life gave them Limes, which were very bitter fought on and believed in themselves and they made history. Little wonder M. Scott Peck said," Until you value yourself, you will not value time. Until you value time, you won't do anything with it."

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SELF ESTEEM

If we get our self esteem from superficial places, from our popularity, appearance, business success, financial situation, health, any of these, we will be disappointed, because no one can guarantee that we will have them tomorrow.            
                                                                                   Kathy Ireland.

What really is this topic about? Is my self esteem low? Is it high? How do I tell? What do I do about it?

These thoughts becloud my mind.

Well, self esteem answers the question, “ how do I feel about myself”? How do I feel about who I am? How do I carry myself?...

Self esteem can be divided into two categories;

11)      Global self esteem-This has to do with who we are.

22)      Situational self esteem-This has to do with what we do.This aspect,( permit me to use the word) fluctuates. It is highly dependent on circumstances, roles, events, etc. Fluctuation of the word, Self esteem, here means that it can be high at one point and low at the other.

Moreover, there are two views to self esteem;

i)                    Low self esteem

ii)                  High self esteem

Now, we would love to take a look at the categories before going to the views above.

1)      GLOBAL SELF ESTEEM

Global self esteem grows as we face our fears and learn from our experiences(although we mustn't have pretty bad experiences ourselves,wisdom demands we learn from the mistakes of others). Here is what we can do about it, if we feel insecure psychologically;

#1  Get Sober: Identify addictions and replace them with self care. I’ve come to notice that each time I do something wrong, I feel less of myself (although some may not feel this way). I tend to feel ‘that guy’ is more like tending to perfection. It is this feeling that makes us feel we are not up to standard.

#2 Practice Self care: once, I used to erroneously think that my dressing didn’t really matter. To me, so long as I looked beautiful or handsome in the face, I was “there.” Later on in Life, I found out I was wrong. We need to practice self care because, from my personal  experiences, each time I felt or thought I looked good, I associated really well with my friends. I’d just leave that cage of myself, I’d be free. On the other hand, if the opposite was the case, I seemed to crawl back into myself like a snail would always crawl into it’s shell.

Warning!!! Warning!!! Warning!!!

I don’t want to see your teeth open because you’re about to laugh or smile!

 I remember a day i had to go to school without brushing my teeth and without my belt. If you’re a guy, you’d understand that this is so horrible a situation. On one hand, I wasn’t free to greet or to respond to greetings. On the other hand, I was so in a suspense, this minute wondering what would happen if my pair of Trousers decided to come off my waist. Lol... to be continued

Adversity, and perseverance and all these things can shape. they can give you a value and a self esteem that is priceless.                      

                                                                                         Scott Hamilton

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