SELF ESTEEM

If we get our self esteem from superficial places, from our popularity, appearance, business success, financial situation, health, any of these, we will be disappointed, because no one can guarantee that we will have them tomorrow.            
                                                                                   Kathy Ireland.

What really is this topic about? Is my self esteem low? Is it high? How do I tell? What do I do about it?

These thoughts becloud my mind.

Well, self esteem answers the question, “ how do I feel about myself”? How do I feel about who I am? How do I carry myself?...

Self esteem can be divided into two categories;

11)      Global self esteem-This has to do with who we are.

22)      Situational self esteem-This has to do with what we do.This aspect,( permit me to use the word) fluctuates. It is highly dependent on circumstances, roles, events, etc. Fluctuation of the word, Self esteem, here means that it can be high at one point and low at the other.

Moreover, there are two views to self esteem;

i)                    Low self esteem

ii)                  High self esteem

Now, we would love to take a look at the categories before going to the views above.

1)      GLOBAL SELF ESTEEM

Global self esteem grows as we face our fears and learn from our experiences(although we mustn't have pretty bad experiences ourselves,wisdom demands we learn from the mistakes of others). Here is what we can do about it, if we feel insecure psychologically;

#1  Get Sober: Identify addictions and replace them with self care. I’ve come to notice that each time I do something wrong, I feel less of myself (although some may not feel this way). I tend to feel ‘that guy’ is more like tending to perfection. It is this feeling that makes us feel we are not up to standard.

#2 Practice Self care: once, I used to erroneously think that my dressing didn’t really matter. To me, so long as I looked beautiful or handsome in the face, I was “there.” Later on in Life, I found out I was wrong. We need to practice self care because, from my personal  experiences, each time I felt or thought I looked good, I associated really well with my friends. I’d just leave that cage of myself, I’d be free. On the other hand, if the opposite was the case, I seemed to crawl back into myself like a snail would always crawl into it’s shell.

Warning!!! Warning!!! Warning!!!

I don’t want to see your teeth open because you’re about to laugh or smile!

 I remember a day i had to go to school without brushing my teeth and without my belt. If you’re a guy, you’d understand that this is so horrible a situation. On one hand, I wasn’t free to greet or to respond to greetings. On the other hand, I was so in a suspense, this minute wondering what would happen if my pair of Trousers decided to come off my waist. Lol... to be continued

Adversity, and perseverance and all these things can shape. they can give you a value and a self esteem that is priceless.                      

                                                                                         Scott Hamilton

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